How to Properly Use Your Wedding Photographer

Weddings are happy times that usually bring extended families and far-flung friends back together to celebrate the union of a loved one. Your photographer is there to capture these moments and allow you to remember them for years to come. A single photograph can bring back a flood of memories that a simple bout of reminiscing can’t.

As your photographer zips about, snapping away while you and yours happily party-hearty like it’s 1999, don’t forget a few key thoughts about dealing with this professional.


  • Do be cooperative – nothing makes a photographer’s job harder than an uncooperative subject
  • Do be courteous – yes it’s your wedding day, but don’t become a Bridezilla!
  • Do provide water – a photographer’s job is very strenuous and physically exerting, and an overheated photographer who passes out can’t capture your precious moments
  • Do provide food – photographers can’t photograph if they’re passed out from low blood sugar
  • Do seize control of the crowd – bridal party and guests alike can often ignore a photographer’s requests or suggestions – help out by asserting your authority and letting the photographer do what you paid good money for


  • Don’t go “snap-happy” – your photographer is there to capture the feel of the wedding day, not take a “quick photo” with everyone from Uncle Ralph to 2nd cousin Mildred
  • Don’t let Mom take over – no disrespect intended, but sometimes “Mom” can become more of a hindrance than a help in the photography department – see above as an example
  • Don’t let guests take photos during posed formals – when guests hover behind the photographer to snap shots of a carefully posed formal, the subjects of said photo don’t know where to look and you end up with everyone looking in all different directions
  • Don’t expect an all night shoot – if a photographer’s contract lists “unlimited” time, remember that this does not mean you should expect him or her to stay through the entire length of the reception. After a while, all dancing photos start to look alike

Most photographers detail what is and is not included in their contracts before you sign, and any specific questions should be discussed before the big day. Having a “plan of attack” before the day arrives helps make sure everyone’s on the same page and avoid any unnecessary surprises and frustrations.